Few of my readers requested I do a “how to get over a parent’s death” post. I do not intend to create any misconception, however, that this post will “heal” your pain. The ones who lost their loving parents or a parent know how grave the wound is. Nevertheless, it is not impossible to move on. When I say move on, I don’t mean you can forget and move on but you can certainly remember and move on.
How to deal with a parent’s death?
1. You lost someone you spent your entire life with. You’ve lost someone who knows you better than you know yourself. Accept it. You have to know that they are not going to come back. You have to understand that by crying, hurting, you aren’t doing any good. They say that the deceased is lucky to be gone because they are in a better place. Your faith in religion, God might be different. Your views may not be the same as everyone else’s. But you have to know that they are not going to come back. If you have to survive here, you have to pull yourself together. (Remember) every parent only wish the best for their child. Do the EXACT same thing you would do if your parent were alive.
2. Stay away from memories .. My biggest mistake was I would always surround myself with people who would cry, remember, and mourn the loss of my father. That didn’t go very well for me. I remember my dad, everyday, every second but when I came to terms with the loss I adjusted better but the more I go near people who are a constant reminder of the loss I cannot deal with it.
3. KNOW that parents forgive. I did MANY wrong things after my father passed away. My spiritual self always reminded me of how disappointed my father would be if he were alive. But, please remember that you’re not going to be able to change yourself over a course of days. it takes time. Sure, certain actions of yours would not please your parents but they wouldn’t drive your parents to go away from you.
4. Drugs make it worse. DO NOT TRY TO SEEK HELP OF DRUGS. I have seen people seek help from drugs to forget their pain. The only you’re ruining is yours. Physically, mentally ..drugs will only cripple you.
5. Good things will come along. I always tell people who are upset ,” someday everything is going to be alright”. Things may look rough today but you will get better. Things will get better.
6. You will be stronger. I have been through my fair share of personal problems over the course of 19 years and today, I am stronger than ever. I know my experiences will only help me achieve the best in life, the best life has to offer.
7. Time will help you “deal” not “heal” .
8. Make them a GOOD memory. Always try to remember the good things they’ve taught you. The good things they have done for others will only help you be a better person.