7 things vegans are tired of

1. People’s amazement every time you mention you’re vegan
2. When people ask you the reason and if you say “for animals” , you are done 
3. The question “HOW DO YOU SURVIVE” 
4. “What is that? (vegan)
5. Your nearest grocery store will not have any good vegan options. 
6. Dairy free ice creams / desserts are rare and can only be made by special order
7. “So what do you eat?”

Checklist- 1st birthday parties

So , I was going through all the photos I have taken over the last year and this year , thought of coming up with a checklist. This will be a good practice if you’re doing first birthday photographs for your friend’s child or just some cousin. Everyone from beginners to absolutely professionals can use this! 

Birthday Boy/ Girl alone by themselves. – THIS IS MAJOR. Most of the times, the kids are really grumpy , so if you catch them smiling lean in and focus , I promise you it will be a great shot. Keep clicking. Try gathering balloons or anything else that might hold the kid’s interest for a while and force him/ her to look at the camera! 

Birthday Girl/ Boy with Dad ( Candids) – Dads are usually the ones who are running around with the kid so in a great moment do a few candids. Try catching smiles and wave the baby’s toys if necessary so he/she smiles. 

Birthday Girl/ boy with Mom ( Candids) – Whether the kid is tugging at the mum’s sleeve or just hugging her , they usually call for great moments. Capture it. Always look out for mom ! 

Birthday Girl/ boy with Grandparents – this is the cutest, always! try a few posed shots as well as candids.

Birthday Girl/ boy’s reaction to the entertainment (magicians , clowns) – Always record their faces and make sure they go stand by the clown / magician ! 

Birthday Girl/ boy’s Crawling or Walking – I have covered 2-3 birthdays where the 1 year olds can walk but if they don’t , always document them crawling! That calls for the cutest photos. 

Birthday Girl/ Boy with other kids – These are probably the cutest photos of all. Try to have few posed shots and more natural shots. 
I always try to make sure, years later the photos reflect the baby’s personality !

Birthday Girl/ Boy blowing the candle , cutting the cake, and looking at the cake : Again, these are shots you shouldn’t miss. 

Try getting shots of Birthday boy/ girl with almost every guest. 
Insist on getting shots of the guests who are attending because first birthday is special , very special. 

Always ask the parents who the key members are and make sure the baby has individual photos with all of them!  (No matter how cranky he/she is ) 

I want my blog to

I want my blog to be my representation, but unfortunately this blog is many things I am not.
I am not always trying to change the world, not always reading books but yes to be honest I am jobless meaning I am not attending any school / college right now (it’s my fourth semester off after high school) 
I am almost 20 and technically I should be in University, getting my bachelor’s but I am not . 
I am still sitting here, writing blog posts (not too often), being vegan, playing with my cat, doing photography once in a while and doing everything many people would categorize as “useless”. 
I could have used this time off well ; travel the world, write a book or even work on a documentary but I didn’t. I chose to watch One Tree Hill, eat too much junk and be isolated.
I don’t regret it though. Although I know I should have done a few things but this time off is good in a way because people need to handle themselves before they can handle bigger responsibilities. 
If I were to join school then, I would flunk and drop out which would not be any good.
Today, although with the help of psychiatrists, anti depressants and too many failures I can stand back up and not care. 
I don’t want to tell my kids or grandkids I was a failure I want to tell them I was able to pull myself together even if it was a bit late and headed for my goal. 

20 things to do before 20

Okay, so I sat down with myself the other day and made a list , and decided I have two months left of being a teenager !
I will be 20 !!
Now for the past three years, I was in a  bad place for personal reasons, my readers know why though 🙂

So I came up with 20 things I would like to do before 20 (note somethings are not easy, but you can always modify them)

Get a credit card : If you’re as irresponsible as me, you probably have one and spent all the credit but if you’re responsible you do know that you need a credit score (a good one) and for that you need to be good with  credit cards . I am going to be 20, but my credits are in bad shape I came up with a payment plan now so let’s see if I can slowly pay it off. My goal is to be debt free this year.

Get a job/ start a small business  : I started a small business which gives me decent enough income, I don’t have any car payments or major payments so my expenditure isn’t much. I am no longer a shopaholic , live with my family so for me it’s extra pocket money. I considered getting a job but my resume isn’t impressive enough and I haven’t really been persistent either.

Try a sport : I am not athletic so I haven’t tried a sport yet but I am probably going to take up squash (if that counts as a sport)

Learn a new language : I know many people have a second language , but I am trying to learn Japanese ! So you should too.

Save : I am trying to save $1000, but you should always save according to your limits. For me, as I said I have no major payments to worry about so saving it is easy. For instance, today my Ipad charger broke but I won’t replace it until I have enough money and I could do without my Ipad for a few days anyway.

Run a mile everyday for 1 month : THIS is very important , you can train yourself to run a mile or if you’re fit you should try running on the treadmill for everyday. Eventually, you will be in a habit.

Take up Yoga/ Zumba : I took up Zumba , and I do yoga at home but doing Zumba in a group setting is a lot of fun , do try it if you have’t already.

Don’t eat carbs/ sugar for a month : By carbs I mean bad carbs , and bad sugar! Try boycotting it for 1 month and you will be good to go.

Don’t watch TV for a month : I tried but failed . I watch a lot of soaps , so I can’t seem to give it up. But I will start from March (fingers crossed)

Give up an obsession/ addiction : I am addicted to checking my mail and my ipad, I am trying to limit my use.

Go on a reading spree : My bucket list has read all Nicholas Sparks books , and all Pretty little liars books so I am trying to finish reading those.

Give someone a makeover : I really want to do this, but I can’t find anyone who would be interested in it. All my friends are pretty made over lol. But if you know someone, you should try it!

Go an entire day without technology : this means no phone, tv, or even oven! I couldn’t do it since the first thing I reach for when I wake up is my phone and that pretty much does it for you . But I will try it soon.

Raise money for a charity : I think everyone should try it! If you haven’t done it , do it already. I do charity very often but I haven’t raised money for a long time.

Read the Bible/ The Quran / a religious scripture : I am reading the Bible and the Quran. I hope to have it finished before my birthday!

Go bungee jumping or skydiving : I really want to do this before my birthday or on my birthday. I am hoping to do bungee jumping though , too scared for skydiving!

Make a gratitude list and read it on your 20th birthday : I won’t be celebrating my birthday but I will probably make a gratitude list for my readers or my family/ friends so they can read it .

Get a pet : Many of us grow up with pets but some don’t know the experience of having a pet and caring for it. My life has been so much better since I got my cat, and I have become a better person (I hope so) .

Study a topic you would like to know more about : I am studying about animal cruelty, and also about adoption. If you want to know more on any topic consider reading up on it on the internet/ library.

Learn to be happy alone : During our teenage years, we become so attached to our boyfriends/ girlfriends that we forget we are an individual. Dependance is not a good thing and you should do things for yourself and by yourself.

Animal cruelty – one step at a time

Dear readers, I know I have been moral policing a lot in my last few posts but I can’t help it. I feel terrible that I can’t do anything to change the world, the cruelty. 
Today I want to speak up for all those defenceless animals who are brutally killed for their skin, meat, fur! 

Don’t we love our dogs and cats? How would you feel if your cat/ dog was skinned alive for their fur? Unfortunately, the practice of abusing cats and dogs is common. I don’t know about you but my life revolves around my cat and even if she sneezes one bit I feel like the world is about to collapse. 
Then what gives us the right to wear their skin? Yes, it may not necessarily be cats or dogs but they can be a fox/ bunny. 
The sad thing is all these designers ; Louis Vuitton, Burberry , Chanel use their leather to produce an expensive bag or wallet and we happily keep spending our hard earned money to SUPPORT such practices. 
Yes, by buying these products you are supporting animal cruelty. 
What gives us the right to use their skin or fur? What do they owe us? 

I am not asking you to be vegan right away, but I want to raise awareness and let everyone know that we don’t necessarily have to be vegans to take a stand against animal cruelty. 

I want to tell YOU , no one be it an animal or us no one deserves to be killed/ skinned alive. 

I will be honest and I have spent a lot on designer accessories which were manufactured using their skin / fur BUT I don’t wear them anymore because I don’t want to encourage buying these accessories. 

Adoption: Why people don’t care?

I have seen very few cases where people want to adopt unless and until they are infertile. It makes me angry, I find we have so many kids dying of hunger everyday but all people do is donate perhaps 5-10% of their paycheque and they think they have fulfilled their responsibilities. But, no one really wants to adopt “another person’s child” and would prefer to have their own. I don’t blame them because every woman has the right to experience the joy of motherhood. But, is experiencing motherhood limited to baring the child only? Does motherhood not entail the sleepless nights a mother spends to put her kid to sleep? Does it not mean to take part in various activities with their kids? Why can’t motherhood be experienced while rearing up a child in need? 
I once asked my mother why she didn’t ever consider adoption . My mom simply answered because my dad was the only son and they needed his “own” blood. The other reason was people assume the process of adoption is lengthy and time consuming which it is, no doubt but is it not worth it if you can change someone’s life? 
I know of people who didn’t adopt because they think they can’t love someone else’s child the same way they would have loved their own ( A CHILD IS A CHILD, AND YOU ARE BOUND TO LOVE A CHILD IF YOU HAVE MOTHERLY/FATHERLY FEELINGS). 
I know of people who wanted their “blood” to carry their family name. WELL? You are going to be teaching your values, your ideas to your adopted child, how does it matter? Yes, now if you’re more into nature vs nurture then I understand. But,  in my opinion, nurture plays a key role in one’s development as an individual. 
Some people never even have the idea to help, for them having a baby is a natural process so it is our responsibility to spread the word , to advocate for all those kids who don’t have a family. 
I get angry but then I realize it’s not their fault , because we don’t emphasize on the importance of adoption. There is also the problem of people assuming you are gay/ infertile if you adopt kids which is DUMB. 
But can you stop people from talking ? You change the world, take a step and do what you ought to do.