Why I love chick-lits

– Guy and the Girl fall in love.
– They begin with disliking each other but slowly start hovering feelings for one another
– Happy Endings
– Mostly the chick lands into a big problem but eventually gets it all sorted out
– For the reassurance, that life doesn’t suck
– For finding similar characteristics as most female protagonists
– For the loveable hot guys.
– Chick lits have the best boyfriends. I mean come on, Luke Brandon ❤
– Often the story takes place in real world .. I don’t count Twilight as chick lit
– Because I love whining over that one perfect boyfriend that I don’t have but they do

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Debt !

Despite of my wise poses on materialism and showing off, I have to admit that I have given into the north american life of materialism. That said, the spending phase was about 3 months ago. After that whole thing, I took a break from my materialistic ways and I am happy going into other worlds through books and television for now. I owe my bank, credit card company close to $2100. I am looking for a job but since I quit KFC suddenly , reference isn’t working out well. I am looking for jobs and jobs and jobs but no luck.
I can easily ask my mom to pay off and she will be glad to but since she already paid off $6000 four months ago I think it will not be fair to ask her again.
So I figured out some ways of saving money when I am earning (right now I am not)
– save $100 a week
– start paying off credit card companies slowly
– cut back on luxury (buying starbucks, donuts, ice cream)
– save money by walking to places
– save money by drinking water instead of soda
– understand the consequences of having a bad credit history

Education

I have always been taught that a person is measured by their achievements (academic). My parents, extended family and my surroundings have always conveyed the message that a person is only worth if they are “educated”. My question is how exactly are we EDUCATED if we get a high school diploma? How exactly are we “educated” if we get out of college with a high GPA? I hardly even remember any of the authors’ works I were taught in school. The only author I remember is probably Shakespeare. Any of the math that I spent nights practising will never come to my aid. I do not wish to pursue a career in business/ science. I want to bring a change to the world. I want to help the poor. I can help the poor without a college degree, can’t I? Maybe not in a first world country but if I go back to my hometown, Dhaka, Bangladesh I can easily use my father’s wealth to help the poor. But, just for my mother’s satisfaction I need to acquire a degree. There are so many people around the world who would kill to have the opportunity I have. I am well aware of it. But, I really don’t understand what I should work hard for. Is it for a recognition from some school that I have fulfilled the requirements set out by their college? Is it for acknowledgement from my mother’s contemporaries that I am “educated”? Or is it for telling people how “educated” I am? I do not want to have a 9-5 job and earn money. I want to help people. I want to teach little children English. Just for that little wish I will have to go through so many hardships ; go to college, get a degree and convince my mom.

Life after death

I spend days thinking why I live this life, for what? I always think what I will be seeing after I die. I am in that stage of life where I am classified as “young” hence people assume I will live long. They think my whole life is ahead of me. I am not writing this post because I think I know what will happen to me after I die. My purpose of writing this post is to convey my thoughts to my readers.
My maternal grandpa is still remembered for his contribution to his hometown. He built a mosque where people offer their prayers. I may not have seen him when he was alive. He died at a young age. But, everyone I met who knew him has always praised him for his honesty, personality and positive attitude. I am not trying to sound rude here. We are all special. For instance, I do not know my grandpa’s mother. She has become a history. People of her generation passed away. In fact, I don’t think anyone really remembers her. My mom does, her family does , of course but no one else. My kids will probably never know her. She will become an unknown ancestor of theirs. I have no story of hers to recall. She will just fade away as I grow older. That being said, my purpose to mention her is we live life to leave a mark. My grandpa will be remember for generations because of that one mosque he built. Maybe, my grandchildren will tell stories to their children about my grandfather. Although, he will be an ancient ancestor but they will at least have a story to tell about him.
I am not saying that if we are unable to leave a mark on this world our life is futile. Our life is valuable, for us, for people who love us.
My father passed away at the age of fifty. My children will not have the fortune of having his company. But, what they will have is knowledge of who my father was. To many, my father might have been an ordinary man. To me, to my family, to people who knew him personally knows he is not an ordinary man. You don’t meet people like my father everyday. He was a good soul. My father helped many poor people. When I visited my father’s house after his funeral , I remember his shoemaker shedding tears for him as if he was my father’s own. My father will live through peoples’ praises.
Growing up I always thought if I could ever be a good person like my father. I have not neared his kindness and generosity in any way. But, I try to help someone if I can.

Adoption- I do not know what I will be able to do five years later. Till now I am not capable of supporting another life (I can of course help a child through world vision for $40 per month). Many people are not able to conceive. People yearn for their own child. I think the biggest way of helping someone is adoption. I know someone in my extended family who has had the fortune of adopting a child. I see that child and wonder what her life would be if that person or anyone else didn’t adopt her. She would probably be playing in some playground of an orphanage. Now that child is travelling around the world, living a proper life with education, proper clothes and most of all love from her parents (adoptive). I know people who have been denied the pleasure of conceiving but they will not adopt simply because the child will not be their own. They have all means of giving a proper life to a child. I get angry thinking that they have so much but they are not willing to give an unfortunate child a life. Blood relationships fall short in front of love. That single child will have the ability to continue the legacy of that family. Adoption is one thing you can do right. You will never go wrong with adoption if you have the ability to provide a shelter, food and education for a child.

Doing good- All of us are not capable of becoming a movie star , or a famous writer but we are all capable of doing good. We are all capable of treating others well. Good people live in this planet even after their death just through peoples’ appreciations and love. Many times we do good but we don’t think we have done anything special but that might mean a lot to someone. For example, my friend and I were watching a movie once. I lost my bus ticket. I went around asking everywhere for a bus ticket but no one had one. A girl, randomly came up to me and gave me a bus ticket. She probably doesn’t even remember she gave me a bus ticket but I will always remember her because she did me a huge favour that day. That’s why whenever someone needs change, bus ticket or money if I have them I make sure I give it to them because I am able to get more (till now). Maybe, someone, somewhere in the world remembers me because I helped them someday. You never know.

Pets- If you have the ability to raise a pet, that can be counted in your good deeds too. My cat’s former owner was giving her away because she didn’t have enough space for her. Now my cat lives like the princess of this house. My mother, my brother treats her like she is a baby. Whenever my mother goes for grocery shopping she buys something for the kitten. She will share our house, our life with us for the rest of her life. This cat could be given to some shelter and would not be given proper food, her treats or she would not even have enough toys.